What do you do when your heart is broken? When your dreams are crushed? Have you found yourself in this situation before? A longing that was met with a no? A job opportunity that completely fell through. A way of life, slipping through you fingers?
A broken dream, a crushed heart, the Bible even says,
Proverbs 13:12-Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life.
Early on in our marriage, my husband and I found ourselves trying as hard as we could to move closer back to our home. We both grew up in the same area and after we finished college we were ready to return home. The problem was-the hubs didn’t have a job yet. He was graduating in December with his masters degree and I had just graduated in the Summer with my bachelor’s in education. I went ahead and accepted a job at the school where we both had grown up in, hoping that he would have a job offer soon and we could make the move.
However, those plans changed. There weren’t any job openings on the horizon. When school had been in session for almost a month, he called me and told me he had accepted a job…a job 300 miles from our hometown. So, I packed up and headed away from our dream of home with both of our longings to be back there.
In this scenario it could have been easy to wallow in the why.
Why God did You give me job in our hometown only for me to leave it?
Why didn’t You provide my husband with a job where all of our family was?
Mercy, I sound like my kids.
God can handle the why’s. He can handle the questioning. What do I do with my broken heart and shattered dream?
Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. 2 Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. 3 For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God. 4 When Christ, who is your[a] life,appears, then you also will appear with him in glory
2 Corinthians 10:5
and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
It’s okay to ask why for a time, but I had to move past it. I had to ask a new question:
What do I do now?
When I look at this set of verses, the Holy Spirit reveals several things to me. HE IS TELLING ME EXACTLY WHAT I AM TO DO.
He is giving us a plan of action.
If my heart is broken then I am to ________.
-set our minds on things above.
-take captive those negative thoughts.
-replace those thoughts with:
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.
It is so easy to set our minds on earthly things. To lose sight, to lose motivation, to lose hope when our heart is broken. But these verses tell us where we need to set our minds. Camp out on these verses.
Are you lost from a broken heart?
Is your heart grieving the lost of a loved one and you don’t know how to move on?
Has a dream you have had for years been dashed to pieces?
Your heart may be broken, your dreams may have slipped through your fingers, but God has a secret for us. A secret that He doesn’t keep too well.
Philippians 4:12-I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation,
What is the secret? How do we pick up our hearts after they have been shattered? How does God mend the pieces when they have been broken?
In verse 13 we find it:
I can do all this through him who gives me strength.
Jesus is the secret.
He will give us the strength to keep on moving. To keep on going. To move forward. That’s the secret.
How is this going to work out? Why did this happen? This is not what I planned?
What do I do now?
Set your minds on things above dear sister, cling to His Word for He has said: Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.
Romans 8:28-And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
Think about Joseph. Brothers sold him to slavery, he was put in prison, forgot about. But God intended it all for good.
Be comforted by this: God did not take His hands off the wheel of your life for a nanosecond. From start to finish, everything followed God’s plan for you.
This means your trials have much more meaning than you realize. Your problems have more purpose than you can imagine. Not because God merely uses bad things, but because God intends them so others might be introduced to Jesus through your example. What a high calling that is!- Joni Eareckson Tada
Use the what. We will never be able to move on, never be able to achieve our dreams, when we are stuck on the why.
The ache may still be there. The memory not forgotten. But He will mend the pieces of your broken heart and He will use them for good.
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